Pammi Kumari: Disabusing Notions of Abuse
“I spent my childhood in Hathiya in Ranchi. They were the happiest years of my life. My parents never discriminated against me and I never felt inferior to anyone. The situation in my neighbour's house was, however, different. They got their son married to a responsible and well-mannered girl. They were all praises for her initially. But when her first child was stillborn, love turned to hostility. The family began ill treating her. Though she did have three children after that, they continued berating and abusing her. They would even call her mother names and speak harshly to her. Unable to bear the humiliation, her mother died. Even this did not deter the family who continued ill-treating their daughter-in-law. The abuse got so bad that she fell ill and eventually died. This incident disturbed me deeply. I was determined to help reverse such situations in whatever way I could. I volunteered with campaign allies and soon got associated with ‘We Can’. As a Change Maker, I have helped a few girls escape the clutches of a man who was trying to initiate them into the sex trade under the guise of getting them employment in Delhi. When I got to hear that some girls were being lured by this man, I got in touch with each one of them and exposed this man’s intentions. I also told them about the plight of women who had been forcibly sold. The result: the women refused to accompany him to Delhi. I feel I have contributed in a small way to save the lives of a few women. I am glad I found the courage to do so.”

